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Oh So Emotional

Greetings out there.  So, I think that I’m finally hitting the wall where I’m about to give out from being overwhelmed.  I’ve been doing so well with this single/co-parenting thing until recently. I have to admit that having Moo pretty much 24/7 is stressful at times. Not that it’s her fault or anything. But it’s hard to get work done and do my bookkeeping when you have a busy one year old crying in the background because her favorite toy is out of reach.

 Hell, I can’t even go to the bathroom without hearing the patter of little feet trailing behind me.  Don’t get me wrong, I like the fact that she is my number one fan and finds it cute to see what Mommy does every second.  However, I am in need of some alone time.  I feel like my life is at a crossroad of sorts and I need some peace and quiet to figure it out.  I pointed out to Moo’s father that he could be more helpful.

I suggested that instead of sticking to his court ordered every other weekend visits, it would be nice if he stepped up to the plate and volunteered to keep her on his days off as well.  Even though she wouldn’t be staying overnight, I could do a lot of work with an entire afternoon free from Mommy Duty.  I think that it’s time for this SuperMom to hang up her cape for a few hours.

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I'm Going Places

I would like to thank Ms Baby Plan for giving YUMMommy the You’re Going Places Award!

She writes a very touching blog documenting her journey to becoming a mother called The Baby Plan.  I was introduced to her blog by Future Mama’s blog.  And I have to say that she is so open and honest with her readers.  Her posts don’t come off forced or phony, but intimate and sincere.

I really appreciate the fact that she thought of my blog to pass this award to.  I am deeply honored and gladly accept it.  This is my Second award for YUMMommy!!! Part of accepting this award requires that I tell you guys where I hope/plan/want/will be ten years from now.  So without further ado….

In ten years, I see myself as an established, multi-award winning, best selling author.  I will be the mom of a very busy 11.5 year old. (Moo is 1.5 now.)  And I’m sure you guys will be laughing uncontrollably about all of my adventures with her preteen issues that are guaranteed to follow.  I hope to be happily married.  Still on the fence about baby number 2.  However, I’m sure we’ll have a cute little Yorkie with nice exotic name.

I want to be more involved with the community and see myself sponsoring charity balls, volunteering and mentoring other young women.  I see Young Urban Modern Mommies as a global foundation that will not only serve as an outreach to American moms, but those in under developed countries as well.  I see my fashion and jewelry line being a huge success.  I see my family and I living in our dream home.

Most importantly, I see myself stronger and more rooted in my relationship with God.  I hope that in ten years I will have met a few of you in person and created wonderful friendships where we send each other Christmas cards and dinner party invitations.

Now, I would like to pass this award to a few special blogs and people that I have had the pleasure of reading and connecting with.  I truly think that these people are going places to say the least.

Kenya Mack: She is certainly going places.  She’s a published author who has mad skills.
She is also a soon to be 1st time mommy!!  I hope to meet her in person one day because
we have had a blast connecting through our blogs and via Facebook.
Mommy Glow:  What can I say? Alex is an amazing young mom who shares about her 
experience of having been a teen mom, not having a stable support system and co-parenting among other things.  This is a must read blog for other young moms out there.  I’m certainly looking forward to meeting her and bonding in person.
The Soul Mom:  Another wonderful blog, I’ve had the pleasure of stumbling across.  She certainly has soul and passion!!  I even used one of her quotes as my Quote of the Day.  (Check out the top box in the left sidebar.)
The Savvy Sista:  I enjoy reading this blog throughout the day because I get my fix about what’s going on in the Black community.  I mean she blogs about everything from entertainment to real life news and more.
Haute Travels:  This is the Vogue of travel blogs!!!  Never has traveling been made so appealing.  I truly recommend this blog to all fashionistas and travel lovers out there.  I was actually inspired by Haute Travels to start doing a little bit more traveling of my own. The world is this big canvas waiting for me to make my brush stroke.
Baby Makin{g} Machine:  I can’t really remember how I stumbled across this blog, but it was the very 1st blog I subscribed to on here!!!  I mean from the first post I read, I was hooked.  I admired the fact that Future Mama put so much of herself out there for readers to get to know.  She is much more than a blog/Twitter/Facebook personality.  She is an amazing person.  And I’m glad that I’ve gotten the opportunity to bond with her through her blog and Facebook as well as Twitter.  I truly hope to meet her in person.  I see so much of myself in her that it’s crazy.
In closing, I hope that all of you check out the blogs I mentioned. I think that you will find that these ladies each have a story to tell.  And while they might be similar, they are oh so unique and inspiring.
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Adventures in Potty Training: The Beginning

Well, I think that I mentioned a few posts back that I was going to try to have my adorable Moo potty trained by the end of the Summer.  And I have to admit that at first I didn’t put much effort into it.  I know Boo me, but in my defense, I was just tired.  I had a lot on my plate. (Not really unusual.)  And of course, let’s  just face it, I was just lazy when it really came to the task at hand.

However, I am happy to report that I have since recovered from my laziness.  I can’t say that I’ve taken some of the things that were on my plate off.  If anything it’s been quite the opposite.  I’ve actually put more things to my plate, but I will save all that for a later post.  The important thing is that we are finally on the journey to leaving behind diapers and saying Hello to big girl panties!  Now that I have taken the plunge, I’m truly excited.

It sounds crazy but I am genuinely excited about Moo soon being able to go potty.  For starters, my diaper bag will be lighter.  I won’t have to carry a stack of diapers, ointment and all that other stuff.  I can just keep a few pull-ups in the car and I always keep wipes.  Second, I’m excited about taking her shopping to get her first set of panties!!!  That will be a milestone to write about in her baby journal.

Every time, I go to Super WalMart or The Children’s Place or whatever shop I’m at, I can’t help but glance at the little girl underwear and wonder when my Moo will have a collection of her own.  My mom always says that nice underwear helps you to feel sexier and better about yourself.  Of course, Moo is too young to feel sexy, but at least she will feel good about herself.  She’ll like the big girl she tries so hard to be.

This morning, we sat on the toilet using the Sesame toilet seat my mother got.  She did a little tinkle.  And then later on this afternoon at the office, she tried taking a poo on the toilet!!  That might be TMI, but I can’t help it.  I’m motivated and fully committed to helping her progress.  I’m learning that motherhood is what you make it.  And I choose to make my journey fantastic.

I can either complain like I see so many of the other moms doing, but at the end of the day Moo didn’t ask to be here.  So, instead of viewing this process as a messy one, I’m keeping my eyes focused on the prize.  I’m also trying hard to let this be a positive experience for Moo as well.  If my attitude towards potty training her is negative or ill then she won’t feel motivated to let me know when she has to use the bathroom.  Instead she’ll be more content to urinate in her diaper and not have to bother me.

So, I’m already on the hunt for a cute frog potty that we can decorate with her name and maybe some more frog stickers.  I’d also like to get one to go in the car.  That way I can get her used to going to the bathroom on the go.  Not to mention, I won’t have to put out a boatload of sanitizer and Lysol just make the public restrooms clean enough to go in. I can just lift up the trunk of our minivan and sit her on the potty. (I have privacy screens that can go around her potty of course.)

I can’t wait to see how this adventure progresses.  Wish us luck!!!

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Oh So Emotional

Greetings out there.  So, I think that I’m finally hitting the wall where I’m about to give out from being overwhelmed.  I’ve been doing so well with this single/co-parenting thing until recently. I have to admit that having Moo pretty much 24/7 is stressful at times. Not that it’s her fault or anything. But it’s hard to get work done and do my bookkeeping when you have a busy one year old crying in the background because her favorite toy is out of reach.

 Hell, I can’t even go to the bathroom without hearing the patter of little feet trailing behind me.  Don’t get me wrong, I like the fact that she is my number one fan and finds it cute to see what Mommy does every second.  However, I am in need of some alone time.  I feel like my life is at a crossroad of sorts and I need some peace and quiet to figure it out.  I pointed out to Moo’s father that he could be more helpful.

I suggested that instead of sticking to his court ordered every other weekend visits, it would be nice if he stepped up to the plate and volunteered to keep her on his days off as well.  Even though she wouldn’t be staying overnight, I could do a lot of work with an entire afternoon free from Mommy Duty.  I think that it’s time for this SuperMom to hang up her cape for a few hours.

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I'm Going Places

I would like to thank Ms Baby Plan for giving YUMMommy the You’re Going Places Award!

She writes a very touching blog documenting her journey to becoming a mother called The Baby Plan.  I was introduced to her blog by Future Mama’s blog.  And I have to say that she is so open and honest with her readers.  Her posts don’t come off forced or phony, but intimate and sincere.

I really appreciate the fact that she thought of my blog to pass this award to.  I am deeply honored and gladly accept it.  This is my Second award for YUMMommy!!! Part of accepting this award requires that I tell you guys where I hope/plan/want/will be ten years from now.  So without further ado….

In ten years, I see myself as an established, multi-award winning, best selling author.  I will be the mom of a very busy 11.5 year old. (Moo is 1.5 now.)  And I’m sure you guys will be laughing uncontrollably about all of my adventures with her preteen issues that are guaranteed to follow.  I hope to be happily married.  Still on the fence about baby number 2.  However, I’m sure we’ll have a cute little Yorkie with nice exotic name.

I want to be more involved with the community and see myself sponsoring charity balls, volunteering and mentoring other young women.  I see Young Urban Modern Mommies as a global foundation that will not only serve as an outreach to American moms, but those in under developed countries as well.  I see my fashion and jewelry line being a huge success.  I see my family and I living in our dream home.

Most importantly, I see myself stronger and more rooted in my relationship with God.  I hope that in ten years I will have met a few of you in person and created wonderful friendships where we send each other Christmas cards and dinner party invitations.

Now, I would like to pass this award to a few special blogs and people that I have had the pleasure of reading and connecting with.  I truly think that these people are going places to say the least.

Kenya Mack: She is certainly going places.  She’s a published author who has mad skills.
She is also a soon to be 1st time mommy!!  I hope to meet her in person one day because
we have had a blast connecting through our blogs and via Facebook.
Mommy Glow:  What can I say? Alex is an amazing young mom who shares about her 
experience of having been a teen mom, not having a stable support system and co-parenting among other things.  This is a must read blog for other young moms out there.  I’m certainly looking forward to meeting her and bonding in person.
The Soul Mom:  Another wonderful blog, I’ve had the pleasure of stumbling across.  She certainly has soul and passion!!  I even used one of her quotes as my Quote of the Day.  (Check out the top box in the left sidebar.)
The Savvy Sista:  I enjoy reading this blog throughout the day because I get my fix about what’s going on in the Black community.  I mean she blogs about everything from entertainment to real life news and more.
Haute Travels:  This is the Vogue of travel blogs!!!  Never has traveling been made so appealing.  I truly recommend this blog to all fashionistas and travel lovers out there.  I was actually inspired by Haute Travels to start doing a little bit more traveling of my own. The world is this big canvas waiting for me to make my brush stroke.
Baby Makin{g} Machine:  I can’t really remember how I stumbled across this blog, but it was the very 1st blog I subscribed to on here!!!  I mean from the first post I read, I was hooked.  I admired the fact that Future Mama put so much of herself out there for readers to get to know.  She is much more than a blog/Twitter/Facebook personality.  She is an amazing person.  And I’m glad that I’ve gotten the opportunity to bond with her through her blog and Facebook as well as Twitter.  I truly hope to meet her in person.  I see so much of myself in her that it’s crazy.
In closing, I hope that all of you check out the blogs I mentioned. I think that you will find that these ladies each have a story to tell.  And while they might be similar, they are oh so unique and inspiring.
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Adventures in Potty Training: The Beginning

Well, I think that I mentioned a few posts back that I was going to try to have my adorable Moo potty trained by the end of the Summer.  And I have to admit that at first I didn’t put much effort into it.  I know Boo me, but in my defense, I was just tired.  I had a lot on my plate. (Not really unusual.)  And of course, let’s  just face it, I was just lazy when it really came to the task at hand.

However, I am happy to report that I have since recovered from my laziness.  I can’t say that I’ve taken some of the things that were on my plate off.  If anything it’s been quite the opposite.  I’ve actually put more things to my plate, but I will save all that for a later post.  The important thing is that we are finally on the journey to leaving behind diapers and saying Hello to big girl panties!  Now that I have taken the plunge, I’m truly excited.

It sounds crazy but I am genuinely excited about Moo soon being able to go potty.  For starters, my diaper bag will be lighter.  I won’t have to carry a stack of diapers, ointment and all that other stuff.  I can just keep a few pull-ups in the car and I always keep wipes.  Second, I’m excited about taking her shopping to get her first set of panties!!!  That will be a milestone to write about in her baby journal.

Every time, I go to Super WalMart or The Children’s Place or whatever shop I’m at, I can’t help but glance at the little girl underwear and wonder when my Moo will have a collection of her own.  My mom always says that nice underwear helps you to feel sexier and better about yourself.  Of course, Moo is too young to feel sexy, but at least she will feel good about herself.  She’ll like the big girl she tries so hard to be.

This morning, we sat on the toilet using the Sesame toilet seat my mother got.  She did a little tinkle.  And then later on this afternoon at the office, she tried taking a poo on the toilet!!  That might be TMI, but I can’t help it.  I’m motivated and fully committed to helping her progress.  I’m learning that motherhood is what you make it.  And I choose to make my journey fantastic.

I can either complain like I see so many of the other moms doing, but at the end of the day Moo didn’t ask to be here.  So, instead of viewing this process as a messy one, I’m keeping my eyes focused on the prize.  I’m also trying hard to let this be a positive experience for Moo as well.  If my attitude towards potty training her is negative or ill then she won’t feel motivated to let me know when she has to use the bathroom.  Instead she’ll be more content to urinate in her diaper and not have to bother me.

So, I’m already on the hunt for a cute frog potty that we can decorate with her name and maybe some more frog stickers.  I’d also like to get one to go in the car.  That way I can get her used to going to the bathroom on the go.  Not to mention, I won’t have to put out a boatload of sanitizer and Lysol just make the public restrooms clean enough to go in. I can just lift up the trunk of our minivan and sit her on the potty. (I have privacy screens that can go around her potty of course.)

I can’t wait to see how this adventure progresses.  Wish us luck!!!

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I'm Still Me

If you’ve been reading my blog from the beginning then you know that I started off as a single mom almost a year ago.  Well, since then I’ve reconnected with my daughter’s father and we decided to put all the bull behind us and get married.  I have to admit that being married seems to have changed our relationship for the better.  There’s no doubt that I love married life and being legally bonded to the man who has helped me to be  blessed with soon to be two wonderful children.  He’s always been supportive of me pursuing my dreams, getting an education and having a life of my own outside of us.

However, while marriage has been great for my relationship with my husband, it seems to have taken a tole on some of my friendships.  Before, I got married and I was just a single mom and even before I got pregnant, some of my girlfriends used to call me and want to hang out all the time.  We all babies back to back. Seriously, I was the first to get preggers and then a few months later my bestie got preggers and a few months after that some of our other friends got pregnant.  Our moms and male friends joked that it must have been something in the water. LOL. They might have been right!!

Anyways, we all seemed to somehow stay connected even  after I moved almost two hours away to my hometown.  We were constantly calling each other, texting each other and writing on each other’s Facebook walls.  We exchanged pictures of the kids via text.  And being the old soul that I am, I made sure to mail out cards for all the holidays and even just send them letters for the sake of just keeping them updated on other stuff that had been going but that I hadn’t wanted to mention over the Internet.

So, when I decided to move back to the Queen City, I was thrilled because just about all of us would be in the same city again.  I imagined playdates with all of the kids, mommy afternoons at the nail shop or the mall, joint parties for the holidays, etc.  However, what I noticed when I announced that the hubby and I had eloped was a decrease in phone calls, hardly any text messages or posts on my Facebook wall.  And even though we all live within 30 to 45 minutes of each other, they always seemed too busy to come visit or for me to visit with them.  Then, I got preggers again and was on lock down because of my severe morning sickness. So, of course I couldn’t exactly go to visit them because just riding in the car more than a few minutes made me almost vomit.

I felt like I had been exiled!  And with my bestie in Philly, I became in more engrossed in my blog and Twitter friendships that were forming.  It still wasn’t the same as having my girlfriends who lived in the same city as me to hang out with though.  I finally came to the conclusion that they figured marriage had changed me.  Not the case, I’m still ME!!  Granted somethings have changed like I have to make sure the hubby doesn’t have plans for us before I commit to going places on his days off, but otherwise nothing has changed about me.

Our college days

I still like going to nail shop when I can.  I still like going to the mall. I still like just kicking it with the girls while the kids play and we catch up on some gossip.  So, why can’t they see that?  It almost feels like I suppose to choose between the love of my life or my friends.  I have to admit that this past weekend one of my girlfriends did come by to visit and we’re making progress on trying to get back to the interaction we had before.  It felt awkward at first because honestly I didn’t know what to talk to her about because we hadn’t really talked in so long, but eventually fell back into the swing of things.  Before she left we vowed to keep in touch and visit each other more so that the kids could get used to each other.

The bestie & I in NYC

However, I’ve realized that maybe it’s time for me to expand my friend base.  I signed Moo and I up for a local mom & playgroup on Meetup.com and I have to say those women have welcomed us with open arms.  We went to our first meetup this past Tuesday and it felt good to be surrounded by other moms who weren’t judging me or writing me off because I was married.  I bonded with a few of them right away and am looking forward to future meetups.  Moo didn’t quite warm up so easily but that’s because she’s been an only child for two years now and is used to playing by herself or with me.  However, that is another plus of having joined this group.

She’ll get to interact with kids her age and learn how to socialize on a toddler level and I’ll finally get some female company that I have been craving.  Listening to some of the other moms talk, I know that I’m not alone in having had friendships suffer because of my change in status.   I’m thankful for my God seems to have shown me and led me to a better situation.  After all life is a lot more fun when you’ve got girlfriends you can call and text or just hit the mall with.  And it’s even nicer when those girlfriends know that you’re still you even though your status has changed.

So, have you encountered any strains on your friendships due to motherhood, marriage, career advancements, etc?  If so how did you deal with it?

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I'm Still Me

If you’ve been reading my blog from the beginning then you know that I started off as a single mom almost a year ago.  Well, since then I’ve reconnected with my daughter’s father and we decided to put all the bull behind us and get married.  I have to admit that being married seems to have changed our relationship for the better.  There’s no doubt that I love married life and being legally bonded to the man who has helped me to be  blessed with soon to be two wonderful children.  He’s always been supportive of me pursuing my dreams, getting an education and having a life of my own outside of us.

However, while marriage has been great for my relationship with my husband, it seems to have taken a tole on some of my friendships.  Before, I got married and I was just a single mom and even before I got pregnant, some of my girlfriends used to call me and want to hang out all the time.  We all babies back to back. Seriously, I was the first to get preggers and then a few months later my bestie got preggers and a few months after that some of our other friends got pregnant.  Our moms and male friends joked that it must have been something in the water. LOL. They might have been right!!

Anyways, we all seemed to somehow stay connected even  after I moved almost two hours away to my hometown.  We were constantly calling each other, texting each other and writing on each other’s Facebook walls.  We exchanged pictures of the kids via text.  And being the old soul that I am, I made sure to mail out cards for all the holidays and even just send them letters for the sake of just keeping them updated on other stuff that had been going but that I hadn’t wanted to mention over the Internet.

So, when I decided to move back to the Queen City, I was thrilled because just about all of us would be in the same city again.  I imagined playdates with all of the kids, mommy afternoons at the nail shop or the mall, joint parties for the holidays, etc.  However, what I noticed when I announced that the hubby and I had eloped was a decrease in phone calls, hardly any text messages or posts on my Facebook wall.  And even though we all live within 30 to 45 minutes of each other, they always seemed too busy to come visit or for me to visit with them.  Then, I got preggers again and was on lock down because of my severe morning sickness. So, of course I couldn’t exactly go to visit them because just riding in the car more than a few minutes made me almost vomit.

I felt like I had been exiled!  And with my bestie in Philly, I became in more engrossed in my blog and Twitter friendships that were forming.  It still wasn’t the same as having my girlfriends who lived in the same city as me to hang out with though.  I finally came to the conclusion that they figured marriage had changed me.  Not the case, I’m still ME!!  Granted somethings have changed like I have to make sure the hubby doesn’t have plans for us before I commit to going places on his days off, but otherwise nothing has changed about me.

Our college days

I still like going to nail shop when I can.  I still like going to the mall. I still like just kicking it with the girls while the kids play and we catch up on some gossip.  So, why can’t they see that?  It almost feels like I suppose to choose between the love of my life or my friends.  I have to admit that this past weekend one of my girlfriends did come by to visit and we’re making progress on trying to get back to the interaction we had before.  It felt awkward at first because honestly I didn’t know what to talk to her about because we hadn’t really talked in so long, but eventually fell back into the swing of things.  Before she left we vowed to keep in touch and visit each other more so that the kids could get used to each other.

The bestie & I in NYC

However, I’ve realized that maybe it’s time for me to expand my friend base.  I signed Moo and I up for a local mom & playgroup on Meetup.com and I have to say those women have welcomed us with open arms.  We went to our first meetup this past Tuesday and it felt good to be surrounded by other moms who weren’t judging me or writing me off because I was married.  I bonded with a few of them right away and am looking forward to future meetups.  Moo didn’t quite warm up so easily but that’s because she’s been an only child for two years now and is used to playing by herself or with me.  However, that is another plus of having joined this group.

She’ll get to interact with kids her age and learn how to socialize on a toddler level and I’ll finally get some female company that I have been craving.  Listening to some of the other moms talk, I know that I’m not alone in having had friendships suffer because of my change in status.   I’m thankful for my God seems to have shown me and led me to a better situation.  After all life is a lot more fun when you’ve got girlfriends you can call and text or just hit the mall with.  And it’s even nicer when those girlfriends know that you’re still you even though your status has changed.

So, have you encountered any strains on your friendships due to motherhood, marriage, career advancements, etc?  If so how did you deal with it?

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Guest Post: Preparing for Life with Twins

I am a young newlywed and pregnant for the first time.  While this is an exciting time, I recently learned that I am expecting twins, and I find that I am suddenly filled with worries that I had not anticipated.  I have twin brothers, so I was not altogether surprised to learn that I was expecting two, but I am surprised at the level of anxiety that I am starting to feel, and the way that it seems to be growing exponentially with every passing day.

Being a first-time mother, you would think that I would be terrified of the pregnancy and delivery of twins.  I will be trying for a natural delivery and already have a doula lined up.  I realize that there is a chance I may have to have a C-section, but my mother was able to deliver her twins vaginally, and my obstetrician seems fairly optimistic that I will be able to do it too.  Maybe it’s because I have heard so many stories of my brothers’ birth, or maybe I’m just naïve, but it’s not the birth that worries me.

What I’m starting to panic about is what life will be like after the birth.  My husband and I have grown used to it just being the two of us, and it is nearly impossible for me to imagine what it will be like when the size of our family doubles.  As things stand now, we have a nice, tidy life.  We have leather couches and framed artwork, a deck and outdoor furniture that overlooks a meticulous garden, and cars that still have that new-car smell.  Will all of this change?  Will our couches soon have rips and stains and our artwork be hanging askew?  Will my garden become overrun with weeds and our cars smell like spilled milk and stale Cheerios?


Somehow, I don’t think that any of this will matter.  I will have far more important things to worry about than material possessions, like…oh, I don’t know…the health, happiness and well-being of our two beautiful daughters.  I doubt that I will have time to worry about silly things like these once the girls are here.  Maybe all of these paranoid fears and fantasies are my body’s way of preparing for the reality of life with twins, almost as if to get it all out of the way now so as not to stress out when they are here.

I have tried to talk some sense into myself, but I can’t stop my mind from creating scenarios in which my carefully-built life comes crashing around me in a chaotic mess of twisted metal and broken baby bottles.  Every time I buy two of something, those fears seem more and more ridiculous, and it is my hope that they will eventually go away, replaced with the excitement and joy that I feel every time I envision what my daughters will look like, or what the look on my husband’s face will be the first time he cradles them in his arms.  Those emotions are the ones I will cling to as I prepare for life as the mother of twins.













Tiffany Monaco is an elementary school teacher and mommy-to-be of twins who lives and loves in the deep South. When not teaching, she spends her time blogging, cooking Cajun foods, and doing home improvement projects. Find out more on her blog at: http;//www.instructionsoptional.com or follow her on Twitter: @tiffmonaco





























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Pumping Only

Being pregnant with number two everything is different. I so thought I was having a girl, because this pregnancy was so different from my first son. It’s so different that I want to give him the best life I can give him. That’s why I am choosing to pump.

When I had my first son at 18 years old, I knew that breastmilk was what was best for him, but I felt overwhelmed by the whole process. I wanted him to have the best life, but I was going through postpartum, I already felt like he was ruining my life, I just wasn’t into the bonding thing yet. That is when I was given a pump. I didn’t know ANYTHING about pumping. I wanted him on formula, but my husband wanted him on breastmilk. So I made a compromise. I said I was going to try it for 2 weeks and if I didn’t like it back to formula he was going. Well I was not educated enough to know that 2 weeks is not long enough time get your milk in, or that the pain eventually goes away.


I am now more prepared. I feel more educated. I am choosing to pump only because I will be gone from him 4-6 hours a day. I also have a very active husband who really wants to be involved. Pumping gives me the best of both worlds. I give him the best milk, and he can still get a bottle so my husband can give that to him and still get his bonding time. Do I advise everyone to pump? No. If you can get the bond with your baby and he or she latches on by all means breastfeed.

If you are like me and only thinking about pumping I am across this posting for us. I think this posting really gave me the info I needed and the confidence I needed to make pumping happen. I will be in school pumping and I thought it would be awkward. I know understand that breast milk is a beautiful thing and instead of being embarrassed to pump in class I  think I am going to be proud.

Did you pump or breastfeed? Any advice for a pumping mother?



Kanesha Morrison lives in Oklahoma with her husband and one-year-old son. She loves to speak on parenting, marriage, school, but most of all MONEY. She is a full-time stay at home mom, who blogs about her journey through life. Please check her out and read her atMoneyMattersMama.com